I'm Really Lost Wed, May 11th 2011
I have been in my marriage for over 3 years and it has been good, but in the past year it has become almost like we are great roommates, not a married couple.
She has gone back to school and it has made our relationship hard. We have to make time for each other by making date nights to try and keep it together. Unfortunately, it's not just seeing each other that's a problem. Our sex life has diminished to nothing. That is putting a huge strain on our relationship. Finally, it all exploded.
I truly feel that I have fallen out of love with her. I still care and love her but I don't feel like I am in love with her. I explained how I fee and told her everything. She seems to care and change for a little bit, but then just falls back into her old ways of just doing her thing and we go about our days like old.
I have been pushed to the point where I can't handle it anymore. I don't know what to do. I feel like nothing is going to change and we keep going through a cycle? Help give me some guidance because I truly feel like I want a divorce?
How do approach her because she acts like nothing is wrong and is so oblivious to our problems.
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