The Marriage Corner: How Do We Get Through This?Thu, Jan 19th 2012
How long have you been together? 11 yrs
What is your age range? 30-35
Please share your story: I found out my wife was in an inappropiate relationship with a co-worker about 7 years ago. We talked through everything and my wife told me they were only friends. There were signs that there was more but I held onto the thought that she could never cheat on me.
It has bothered me terribly for all this time and would make me resentful of her even though I love her. We have had many arguements over these 7 years and I've said some pretty mean things in anger. Each time, my wife would let a little more of the story out.
This past fall she admitted that she had been in an emotional affair with the guy, but there was never any physical contact. She finally just told me a few days ago that they did have sex one time. I'm crushed, but am willing to make an attempt to work through this. The worst part is, I feel she is getting a pass for what she did.
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