Aftermath of the ThreesomeTue, Oct 31st 2000
hello. I am need in of some advice, and I need it rather quickly. my husband and I have been together for almost 8 years. we have always had a good relationship both emotionally and physically. we both like sexual experimentation. I have always been bi-curious and he has always wanted to try a 3sum. we decided that we would try it and if one of us didn't like it, we would stop. we are both extremely selective and wanted a girl we both liked that was also "clean." last month, we tried it with a girl that we have been talking to for some time now and that we both care about as a friend too. we both like her and agreed on her. the problem is that while I enjoyed most of it, I could not handle watching him have sex with her in front of me. I told him that I could not handle us doing it again. he says that he only wanted it to be something that we shared and that he wouldn't do it without me (although he would like it); but he is very upset by this. he wants it to continue but has agreed to stop. he is also worried that it will affect our friendship with the girl. I am upset because even though he is agreeing to stop, he has admitted that he will still always want it and her. I don't know what to do that will make us both happy. do you have ANY advice to help me and our marriage? thank you.
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