Salvaging A MarriageTue, Nov 30th 1999
Dear Anne, I am married to a great guy and have been for 8 yrs. I'm a mom with two little girls and have been on Paxil for 3 yrs(due to inability to deal w/ my situation)which is this, I am not nor ever have been in love w/ my husband. I married for security reasons. He loves me dearly and I've tried to bond w/ him through our kids but, it's just not there! Just when I had convinced myself that staying busy would help me not to lose it...I met someone out of the blue that I have developed feelings for (he doesn't know I'm married) & I want to pursue a relationship with him (unattached) Am I to leave an almost ideal marriage for something that I know would make me happy but may or may not last? And what about my children( ages 3 & 6), is this really fair to them? I am torn and I don't want to ruin my children's' lives. Please help!!!!
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