Husband's Secretary Too Close?Wed, Apr 28th 1999
Am I asking too much of my husband? We have a Christian marriage. I have moved 3 times for his job promotions, each time I have given up jobs that I enjoy. When I was in my 20's I worked as a secretary in an office with 8 men. I would never go out to lunch with them. My husband was very jealous and I really had no desire to go out with them. He has a secretary,now, and he's with her from 7:00 am to 8:00 pm. He goes out to lunch with her every day and they are seen around town together. Some of these trips are necessary, some aren't. My problem is she wants to attend after hour functions with us because her husband won't attend. Really, she rather attend with my husband and me stay home, Because she doesn't want to infringe on our time. But when she goes with us. I am ignored and they talk company business the whole time. She sits between us and he talks to her the whole time. Am I being petty? If I was doing this to him, he wouldn't like it but I am to go along with this. I feel after hours are our time. She can go on her own.
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